When we think about what we wear on a daily basis, rarely does it coincide with confidence. Instead our minds are filled with thoughts such as: this doesn’t fit right or am I too under dressed or overdressed for this event? In reality, you can really wear whatever you would like. I believe the key factor in looking good and feeling good is confidence. So, here’s the question: How do you build confidence?
I have a couple of small actions that can build confidence with fashion. To begin with, start out by complimenting others. That’s it? Seems simple, but when you are faced with a stranger in the grocery store or at dinner, it may be challenging to go out of your way to compliment another individual. It’s important to compliment others in order to jump into the next step. Receiving compliments.
Receiving compliments may seem easy. You don’t have to go out of your way to talk to someone; instead, that stranger or friend comes to you. However, many of us respond negatively. There is nothing more unattractive than when a stranger gives you a compliment and you react with, “Oh, these pants? Thanks, but they are so old and my hips feel huge in them.” Why do we talk negatively, when someone gives us a compliment? Many people negatively respond to compliments, because they are not comfortable with giving or receiving positive compliments. Instead, start out by simply saying “Thank you,” and accept that you are rocking an outfit. Eventually, you will become more comfortable with compliments and the positive conversations will begin.
One of the hardest things to do is give yourself compliments. Yes, I said it, be nice to yourself! Next time you look in the mirror, give yourself a compliment. As a matter of fact, every time you look in the mirror, give yourself a compliment. Your brain can be trained, and positivity can change many of your perceptions. If you are consistent with these three actions: giving compliments, receiving compliments, and giving yourself compliments, I guarantee your confidence will grow. Eventually, picking out an outfit and being confident in your attire won’t be so hard.